Episode 43: Partners, This One Is For You

Ok Fella’s..If you are planning to listen to this episode, firstly — well done.

Your role in birth is massive. You are not just a bystander. You are a core part of this experience, and in labour, she will look to you more than anyone else for safety, reassurance and grounding.

In this episode, I’m sharing my top tips for partners on how to truly support your woman through pregnancy, birth and postpartum — in a way that builds connection, confidence and calm.

I cover:

• Why getting educated about birth matters more than you realise (and how it changes everything)

• The conversations you need to have during pregnancy to understand what she actually wants

• What labour really looks like — and how to “read the room”

• Practical, in-the-moment tools: massage, hip squeezes, breath work, tone of voice, eye contact and nervous system regulation

• What to say (and what not to say)

• How to advocate for her if plans change

• Setting up the birth environment and protecting the “birth bubble”

• Why a doula can support both of you

• How to look after yourself during a long labour

• The emotional side of birth for partners — including fear, helplessness and overwhelm

• Postpartum: your new role as support crew, gatekeeper and emotional anchor

We also talk honestly about:

• When birth doesn’t go to plan (induction, epidural, caesarean, NICU)

• Birth trauma for dads

• Postpartum depression in men

• The huge identity shift that happens after baby arrives

• Skin-to-skin for partners and the powerful brain changes that come with it

• The questions men are often too afraid to ask

Plus, I share helpful resources to get you started.

Here’s what I want you to remember:

You are there to witness, support and believe in her.

It’s natural to want to “solve” her pain (if she has pain) – but what she needs most is connection, presence and to feel heard. In birth and in postpartum.

You will never forget the way your partner gives birth.
And she will never forget the way you made her feel while she did it.

You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to be present.

Resources Mentioned

Screening and Assessment for Postnatal Depression HERE

Episode 33: What is a “Doula” and how can they support you with Mel- listen HERE

Episode 19:A Dad’s perspective on Birth and the Postpartum- listen HERE

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Please note; all information shared on this Podcast by myself or guests is for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for medical advice.